I get asked this question all the time, usually from people who either don’t enjoy that genre or people who haven’t tried it yet. I’ve thought about this quite a bit, actually. It’s one of those things that is a fact but the why of it takes some thinking.
1. In m/m romance, there are usually obstacles to overcome. The guy can’t come out because of his job, his family, fear of violence. How they meet this tension and either change someone else or learn to live with it is always interesting.
2. In the sub-genre GFY (Gay For You) stories, one or both of the men doesn’t believe he is gay, although he has feelings and an attraction for another man. This, too, is an interesting problem that must be solved for a relationship to go forward. Usually it turns out that the guy is either bisexual or gay and so far into the closet that he can’t admit even to himself that he prefers men without also conceding an unforgiveable flaw in his own personality.
3. I’m a heterosexual woman. I don’t care to read about what a woman’s pussy looks like, feels like, or how wet and tight/throbbing it is. Boobs don’t do anything for me, either. But abs, pecs, cocks, balls, and male butts, I absolutely love. I like to fantasize and imagine fondling a man’s bits and pieces, so reading about how two men touch each other is akin to how I would handle a man. There isn’t anything a man can do to another man that a woman can’t do with hands, pussy, ass, mouth or a toy.
4. No one knows better what feels good to a man than another man. That’s just common sense. He’s been there, done that.
5. The sex is usually on the rough side. Men don’t make love to a hard man like a man makes love to a soft woman. But then again, sometimes he does. It’s the variety that is interesting and makes me hot.
6. I love it when men make noise and talk to each other during sex. I doubt that this happens as much in real life as it does in books, but note to m/m writers: keep ‘em talking anyway.
So, anyone else who likes m/m, let me hear from you. What is it about two guys falling in love and falling in the bed that turns your crank? For that matter, if you really don’t cotton to m/m, let me know why not. What is it about man lovin’ that is a turn off for you? It’s all opinion, neither right nor wrong.